By Brian Burns, LMFT In my last post, I wrote about the power of seeing your own contribution to what's going wrong in your marriage. That's the first move. But it stays abstract until you know what you're actually looking for. In years of sitting with couples, I keep seeing the same handful of patterns show up—dressed differently each time, but built from the same parts. Most people don't recognize their own until somebody names it for them. So here are eight of the most com